Are you an extrovert? I've noticed that my extroverted friends need to think with their mouths open, that they can't seem to go deeper with an idea unless they talk it through. That talking through is how they do their deep thinking. I'm an introvert so I'm the opposite - force me to talk a new idea through and I'll lose it. LEAVE ME ALOOOONE! As a mentor, I do wonder if you're right - that most people need to think with their mouths open. During my sessions with people I often see them talk their way into deeper reflection and surprise themselves (I see it on their faces) as they hear profound words come out of their mouths. It's a privilege to bear witness to that.
I generally profile as heavily introverted. I also need time to process what people are saying to me.
What is often under appreciated are the skills required to make people more likely come up with ideas in conversation. When to speak, when to be silent. The Art of the Question.
Fair point. Actually, I love mentoring because that art of asking the 'right' questions and then knowing when to shut up and let people talk is key. So much more interesting than telling folks what to think.
I've learned to caveate that I think out loud. I can have all the thoughts in my brain that I want but when I speak them they sound so much different. I love ruminating over topics with people. The issue is that many don't realize that this is important for me. Worse, they don't pay attention to see how the ideas are evolving adapting, incorporating, adjusting, rejecting, and formulating new ideas. They want me to listen more while not 'hearing' what's really going on.
I think telling your conversation partner what sort of conversation you want to have is an important point. Some people don’t like being thought at. Others really enjoy a mutual thoughting.
Are you an extrovert? I've noticed that my extroverted friends need to think with their mouths open, that they can't seem to go deeper with an idea unless they talk it through. That talking through is how they do their deep thinking. I'm an introvert so I'm the opposite - force me to talk a new idea through and I'll lose it. LEAVE ME ALOOOONE! As a mentor, I do wonder if you're right - that most people need to think with their mouths open. During my sessions with people I often see them talk their way into deeper reflection and surprise themselves (I see it on their faces) as they hear profound words come out of their mouths. It's a privilege to bear witness to that.
I generally profile as heavily introverted. I also need time to process what people are saying to me.
What is often under appreciated are the skills required to make people more likely come up with ideas in conversation. When to speak, when to be silent. The Art of the Question.
Fair point. Actually, I love mentoring because that art of asking the 'right' questions and then knowing when to shut up and let people talk is key. So much more interesting than telling folks what to think.
I've learned to caveate that I think out loud. I can have all the thoughts in my brain that I want but when I speak them they sound so much different. I love ruminating over topics with people. The issue is that many don't realize that this is important for me. Worse, they don't pay attention to see how the ideas are evolving adapting, incorporating, adjusting, rejecting, and formulating new ideas. They want me to listen more while not 'hearing' what's really going on.
I think telling your conversation partner what sort of conversation you want to have is an important point. Some people don’t like being thought at. Others really enjoy a mutual thoughting.